What is a Biblical Husband?

The portrait of a husband has been altered through the ages. Men used to be the head of the household and now they are no longer being held to the standard they were supposed to be. Women are now taking on the role of husbands and fathers instead. This is, a lot of times, where the family unit falls apart. God holds family to high standards, family is the earthly portrait of the relationship between God, Jesus and us as his children. The husband is the image of God, and without God, the whole world is worth nothing and everything begins to fall apart. We need God in our lives and the family unit needs to have a God centered head, the Husband. As woman of God we should be diligently praying for God to lead us to the husband he has provided for us and not just settle for the first man who gives us butterflies, no matter how good that feels. We need to be equipped with knowledge that God provides for us in his word. God laid out exactly the type of husband we need and we need to study his word and pray for our Biblical husband.

So, what is a biblical husband? According to scripture, the husband is supposed to be the leader, provider, protector; the husband is also supposed to be a companion. But, let’s begin with the leadership role first. The Bible is very clear about the leadership role of the husband in his home. In 1 Timothy 3:2-4, Paul talks about how a husband is like the overseer of the church and how he should be self-controlled, respectable and must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive. The husband is called to be a leader because the Bible has positioned him as the head of the household, and he is to only submit himself to Christ. The headship is explained in 1 Corinthians 11:3 “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is man; and the head of Christ is God.”(KJV).

 To lead is to be an influence, this isn’t calling a husband to be a dictator in the home, but to be an influence on their wife and children as well as others to follow Gods teachings. Ephesians 5:23 also talks about the husband’s role as head of the wife, but Paul doesn’t continue this by telling the husband to beat or talk hatefully to his wife. No, in this same chapter in verse 25, Paul says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”(KJV) Jesus Christ loved us so deeply that he sacrificed himself for us, and that is what the husband is called to do for his wife and children to be a leader, an influencer and “sacrifice” himself for his family’s salvation, leading them on the path Jesus laid out for them.

Another important job for the husband, that coincides with leadership, is to provide and protect the family. A husband can not influence his wife in the way of the Lord if he does not take care of her. A husband does technically have the power to demand of his wife, and if she is a biblical wife, she will obey her husband, but a harsh and demanding husband will never have his wife’s respect or her love. Nor would he deserve it. A wife is more likely to love and respect her husband if he provides and protects her and cares for her well-being and her spiritual needs.

There are three verses that I want to point out to you that I think are very important and explain how a husband is supposed to treat his wife and family. The first one is 1 Timothy 5:8 which says “but if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”(KJV) The second one is 1 Peter 3:7 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (KJV) And finally, Colossians 3:19 says “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”(KJV). God wants husbands to care for their wives and the children they bear. Only a biblical husband can care for a woman and his family the way they were meant to be. Men are called to provide and protect their woman and they need to be there loving companions. This is how a biblical marriage is formed, and if the family follows and grows closer to the Lord together, it keeps the family strong and following Gods path.

Ephesians 5:25-33

“25.Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27.That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; buy that it should be holy and without blemish. 28. So, ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31.For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh. 32. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33.Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”(KJV)

A biblical husband and wife are meant to love, respect and support each other. Men and woman were created with natural, physical and emotional differences. A husband and wife are meant to help each other by meeting the other persons needs through physical and emotional intimacy. In 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 it explains that husbands and wives are companions and a team that work together to make the family work. When each husband and wife operate under their specific role that God created, then they can raise healthy children whose lives will honor their mother and fathers and most importantly honor God.

The beginning of the biblical marriage starts with a biblical husband. It starts with a husband who influences his wife and family and a husband who gives leadership, protection, provisions and a loving and gentle heart to his wife and family. Without a strong Godly man, the family can very easily be at risk for hardship and difficulty typically brought on by sin. The destruction of Gods church starts in the family and that’s where Satan targets first.

So, keep faith and your eyes open for a biblical man. As women of God we shouldn’t settle for any man, only a godly man. Our men need to be encouraged to spend time in God’s word and they need to constantly strive to be the biblical men and husbands God has called them to be. A Biblical man should provide, protect, love and support their beautiful wives so they can be better biblical wives and together you can raise strong children of the Lord.

I hope this opens your eyes more to the type of husband God wants for you. You are worthy of a Godly man, we all are. I know a biblical man is hard to find these days, but we must trust that God has a plan. I begged God for my husband thinking he would never be a possibility, but I am so glad I trusted God and did my best to do what God wanted me to do. I am truly blessed with a Biblical husband, and if you keep the faith and keep praying for him, you will be too.

 Some of you may already be married to a biblical man, some may not. 1 Corinthians 7:13-14 says “13. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but how are they holy.”(KJV) If you are a believing wife with an unbelieving husband, keep the faith. If you continue to set an example as a biblical wife your husband will be saved. He will notice your submissiveness and respect and begin to question his worth as your husband. God is so powerful and has a plan in all things, we just have to keep praying and doing what Gods asked of us and he will answer our prayers in his own time. Husbands and wives are both called to be leaders and examples of the image of God, but as the head, the husband is supposed to be the leader. Continue to pray and have faith that your husband will be the biblical husband God has called him to be.

If you have any thoughts on this or questions, please comment below and I would be happy to hear what you have to say or give any insight I may have.

Blessings Always,

Covering Christian Mom